Ok so I know its been forever and a blue moon since I last posted but wooh do I have some new ventures to tell you about. I’ve been doing some researching and experimenting with a few at home opportunities, of which some worked and some did not. This would explain my brief silence as I had to find a balance between the girls, starting a business, school work and of course a little me time.
Break time is over and its back to sharing and gaining new insights from all you wonderful moms out there! Do you own a blog? I would love to connect with you all to share ideas and help each other along the way. Do you represent any MLM companies? I am a independent representative for Scentsy. This blog is dedicated to all women not just single mothers, so free to engage and lets get to know one another.
Chat with you soon,
Single parents rock!!
I can definitely remember my mom telling me a thousand times as a teenager that I would have it ten times worst. oh how naïve I was to laugh hat phrase off back then. No one gave me a heads up or said run while you can. nope they just left me out to dry and I must say I’m happy they did because this has been quite a emotional catastrophic experience. Ok so maybe i’m exaggerating on the happiness part but it did sound good right?
From the day my eldest turned thirteen who is now fourteen, the hormones have kicked in and the attitude is raging. Constantly the little voice in my head keeps saying “ten times worst”. Does this sound familiar? Has your teenager been replaced by a horrible attitude having monster? Rest assure that this too shall pass. We were all these same monsters at one point most likely and we got through them. What’s important for us as parents is to make sure we still hold the solid ground. our word is our word. It is our teenagers job to try any and every thing possible to persuade us to go along with there thinking.
Now we haven’t been making it as single parents for this long to allow our children to defeat us have we? of course not, so stay strong and hold your ground. This will pass and in the years to come you will look back, reminisce and laugh about it! #single parents rock!
When is sibling rivalry going too far? That Is something we as parents have to decide. Finding out the cause for the fighting is also important. This is an issue I had to tackle over the past few months. Having all girls ages 14, 10, and 2 my home was in constant battle. A home full of screaming and angry girls everyday was normal for me. Arguments ranged from one wearing the others clothes to who should have to clean up what. The two year old even had her bit of say in the situation. I was at my whit’s end with the hostile environment in my home and something had to change. Does this sound familiar to you? Lets go over some of the techniques I used to help my girls grow closer.
My first step was to set weekly family meetings. At these meetings, I encouraged the girls to discuss their activities of the week, their good points and their bad points and anything else they wanted to share. In our first meeting I made out a set of family rules. these rules included things such as speaking kindly, no down talking, and complimenting a least once daily.
Success will not happen over night, but it’s definitely important to acknowledge progress being made along the way. This action always made the other want to get that same acknowledgement so they would compete as to who could be the best behaved. I thought it was great to see them competing at something positive. #single parents rock!
As a single parent we make sacrifices everyday. From losing sleep to giving up the only meal you’ve had time to eat, these are just some of the joys of being the only parent. For the past two years I have made the sacrifice of being a stay at home single mom. While this has been a great opportunity to bond with my Ani my two year old I’ve also accomplished finishing up my degree in business administration. While this should be the happiest point in my life, I’m stricken with guilt.
The thought of being away from ani for such long hours makes me feel guilty. Will the daycare treat her the same as I? Will she be afraid of me leaving her with strangers? Will our bond grow cold? All of these questions are circling through my head. I am not alone however, many single parents feel guilt of having to go to work. We feel as though we are super heroes because we have been doing it by ourselves for so long. But it’s ok to welcome help sometime.
That guilt that we feel is just another form of our unconditional love we feel for our children. In the long run, our children will express their admiration and appreciation for our hard work! So let’s get rid of out guilt and pay ourselves on the back for a job well done! Remember single parents rock!
From the day we bring our babies home from the hospital we are attached. Cuddling has always been my favorite, especially with ani; my two year old. With my oldest girls I always went straight back to work full time which meant my girls were in daycare from young ages. I am Ani’s daycare, so this means I get to
Notice the tantrums and fits that she has become accustomed to.
The age difference between ani and my oldest girls is quite significant. There’s eight years between Ani and the second oldest and 11 yrs between Ani and my oldest. Because of this age difference she has become accustomed to getting her way and goes into a rage without getting it. You can imagine how embarrassing it was to have her screaming in the middle of the aisle for a snack cake. I was at a lost for what to do with my sweet little angel turned monster. I had to put a plan into action and quick.
After doing a little research, I found that my tactic of leaving the room until she calmed down was actually doing more harm then good. When she is going into a rage, she needs my comfort so she can know she is not alone and I’m here for her. The anger they feel with these tantrums is not a form of manipulation, it is actually something they are not in control of. This explains why she reacts differently if I comfort her, rather than leaving the room.
In no way, shape or form am I saying that any one parenting tactic is better then the other, however in my particular situation this comforting solution has worked very well for ani and I. While she still has occasional tantrums, they definitely have decreased and are less mild. Toys are no longer being thrown and she is starting to gain an understanding of the consequences of her outburst.
Is there a certain amount of years apart we should have our children? There is no correct answer for the question. It really depends on what we as individuals want. I have three girls Kia age 14, rya age 10 and ani age 2.
These are pretty significant age gaps and I can definitely say my household is always very interesting. While Kia is interested in anything socially connected, rya enjoys pretending to be different characters and reading Percy Jackson. As far as interacting with each other however, that’s a no go. Ani, the toddler seems to receive nothing but constant attention and love from both girls. This has led me to believe that the age gap of four years between the older girls is hindering the possibility of a positive relationship. Being an only child for four years and then welcoming a new baby I believe would be scary for most kids.
As a single parent, it is important for me to correct the relationship issues between my older girls. Love and compassion is a major component of happiness in my home. Where do we find the balance when the children have such big gaps in age? I really appreciate any feedback and suggestions. Until next time remember single parents rock!!!!
Oh the teenage blues have arrived! Where did teaching our children responsibility go to? My fourteen year old believes that because I have been waking her up since six I should continue to do. Do you agree?
About a month ago, I decided it was time for her to start waking up by herself. It made sense to me because soon she will be old enough to work and drive. This would be part of teaching her responsibility or so I thought.
But here I find myself feeling guilty for her waking up late. Big no no. As a single parent it’s hard not to give in to guilt trips because we already feel guilty for being a single parent. But believe it not standing firm on your word will make your child more appreciative of the you in the long run.
I would love to hear feedback, maybe you could tell me of your experiences and how you handled it. Until next time remember single parents rock!!!!